Showing posts with label the hand that rocks the cradle. Show all posts
Showing posts with label the hand that rocks the cradle. Show all posts

Friday, 2 October 2020

Date 188


"The Hand that Rocks the Cradle." 


Given that this person lived in Kent, I didn't think that there was much chance of us meeting up and I'd not left Brighton since pre-lockdown either. We'd been chatting for a week or so and she suggested that we meet in London the following evening. 

She then cancelled the next morning as her child's nanny possibly had Covid and to be honest I was actually relieved as the thought of getting on the train to London made me nervous. It turned out that the nanny just had some 24 hour bug so we arranged to meet the following week.

This gave me a bit of time to get used to the idea of venturing out of Sussex, although I was slightly suspicious of her being vehemently against meeting at my old favourite the BFI bar.

We were due to meet at 6:30pm on a Thursday but I got a text from her on the day saying we could meet earlier as she didn't have much on work-wise. So, I got ready early and worked out my trains and told her the one I'd get and that train came and went and I didn't hear from her. So, I texted her and she just said: "oh, sorry, got distracted." This pissed me off as we then just met at the original time...

We met at Gordon's Wine Bar and I realised why she was so adamant about this being our meeting place, as she only had to get a quick train to Charing Cross, whereas I had to get the tube as well. As it turned out there was a massive queue to get in so we went elsewhere. She admitted later on that she'd been completely "self-serving" in why we went there initially as it was much more convenient for her, whereas the place I suggested would have meant that neither of us would have had to have got on the tube. Anyway, I digress and to rewind things back a bit, when I caught sight of her; I just knew that I didn't fancy her.

We made our way along the Strand and went to a Tapas restaurant (which we'd both been to before), initially for drinks but we ended up eating there too. I actually had a really pleasant evening and the food and wine was excellent. I also killed 4 birds with one stone as it was the first time since March that I'd been to London, got on a train, used the tube and been to a restaurant. 

I think she really liked me and on the way back to the station she kept asking me if I'd had a good time. I genuinely had enjoyed myself, which I said to her as we were both about to part ways, but I also told her that I didn't see anything romantic between us but I'd be happy to stay in touch if she wanted. She looked disappointed but I said to her that I was just being honest. I didn't hear from her again, which was absolutely fair enough, and that's a situation I've been in many times so I understand that although any sort of rejection hurts, honesty really is the best policy and that if there isn't a spark then what's the point? It did feel good to get out and about again though and because places have to shut at 10pm now, I was home before midnight!!! Woohoo.


Tuesday, 29 April 2014

Date 88


"To tease, torment and tantalise."


My second date in Brighton and my second date using good old Tinder.

I've said it before, but Tinder is really odd. I don't understand why, when I get a match and message someone, the vast majority of the time they never reply. Why have they swiped right in the first place? It can hardly be the cut of my jib either as most people don't even have any text on their profiles: just pictures; so it's not as if there's much to go on.

With this person we messaged for a while and the chat wasn't that earth-shattering, but the novelty of someone actually replying to me kept things going even when she took a week to respond. I was quite surprised when she asked me for a drink as I didn't think she was that bothered so I really didn't have any expectations. As it turned out though, she was lovely and we got on really well.

We had about 4 or 5 drinks and I found her great company. She had some great such stories such as a wine bar nearby an ex used to take her to that was allegedly run and owned by a male porn star. I haven't been able to locate it yet, but I'm still trying.

It also turned out to be her first internet date, which became obvious to me when she actually asked me at the end of the night whether I'd like to go on another date! I'm not used to this honesty and lack of game playing so I automatically said I'd love to. And thus we parted ways and I felt very positive as she wanted to see me again, right?

I texted her the next day and asked if she was free at the weekend. She replied and said no but didn't say when she'd next be free. I didn't hear from her for a week so texted her again and asked whether she fancied another drink the following weekend. She never responded, so I left it because I clearly misread what she meant when she said she wanted to go on another date...