Date 138

"If you're so funny, then why are you on your own tonight?"

After meeting for drinks in Lewes (sort of halfway between where we both live), getting on really well and sharing a snog at the train station; a rare second date was agreed upon.

I booked a table for a restaurant in Brighton and we were due to meet the following week. We texted a bit for a few days after and when she didn't reply to one I sent on a Thursday night, I thought nothing of it. I had a really busy weekend where I was out all the time and thought about texting her but didn't.

At 9am on the dot on Monday morning I received a text from her cancelling our second date because I hadn't contacted her over the weekend. She told me I was great company and funny but the 'communication void' meant she wasn't feeling it. I explained that she hadn't replied to my last text and when I first meet someone it's a difficult balancing act as if you text someone too much and they're not into that sort of thing then that can come over as being too intense. I love a good text back and forth but I guess I was just playing it cool. She then said that her instincts told her that me not asking how she was over the weekend didn't bode well and that she wanted to be chased.

I reasoned with her that she hadn't contacted me either and these things work both ways, but she was quite dismissive of that. And after also explaining that I'd been looking forward to seeing her again and that I felt she'd totally misread me, I realised by her responses that she'd made her mind up so I wished her good luck in the future and left it. I genuinely don't think that I'd done anything wrong and surely the fact that I was seeing her again in a few days and I'd arranged the second date was an indicator of my positive intentions. Apparently not.